Take it slow with the kids and build a relationship based on friendship, not as a future stepparent.

Having recently read an article describing What A Single Mom Wants In A Boyfriend I began asking myself exactly what I was looking for in a woman with whom I choose to have a relationship. Recently, after a brutal 14-month custody battle, I was finally granted 50/50 custody of her and no longer limited to being an every-other-weekend dad.

Because of this, finding a potential partner to have a serious relationship with was not a priority for me until about the time I began dating my last girlfriend.

Kathryn Rateliff Barr has taught birth, parenting, vaccinations and alternative medicine classes since 1994.

She is a pastoral family counselor and has parented birth, step, adopted and foster children.

It isn’t that big of a disruption in day-to-day life.

Hell, once they can eat and get dressed on their own, they can practically babysit themselves, right?

Dating isn't a single mom's top priority, so help her arrange things so she can get out with you.

Let her know you understand that her kids come first.

She holds bachelor's degrees in English and history from Centenary College of Louisiana.

Studies include midwifery, naturopathy and other alternative therapies.

It wasn’t long before we were discussing where we wanted to live when we moved in together, how we would integrate our families, and what our wedding would be like.