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At the same time, love does not mean that you should expect him to pick up the phone all the time or text you constantly.
But the reason I say it is that it’s something I would have said years ago in an early relationship. The thing is, as I had more relationships –more falling in love and then eventually the break-up, more ups, more downs, more experience — my perspective changed and the way I was in relationships changed too… Sure, people get jaded by breakups, sometimes for a month, sometimes for several months (or longer), but the ups and the downs of relationships are both really good things.
My point is that in the moments he’s with you, he probably does mean it.
He says he wants to be with me forever and that he loves me- I mean, could see us being like that but does he really mean it or is he just saying what he thinks I want to hear?
He’s the best thing that’s ever happened to me, but sometimes he won’t call or text the whole day.
In fact, I would even be so bold as to say that a man will almost inevitably leave a woman if he does not believe he can make her happy.
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But just because somebody should do something doesn’t mean they will, for whatever reason. 😉 But be that as it may, it does bother you and my bet is that you are trying to figure out a way to address it without making him defensive or damaging the relationship.
My feeling is that you should take this as an opportunity to learn how to deal with this sort of thing… First and foremost, get a handle about how you feel about it.
It’s better to just think about what’s happening and where you’re coming from in all of it. But when they consistently do the same thing and it is something that just doesn’t work for me and I feel like it’s reasonable for me to expect it, I do bring it up.
Some things to consider: Personally, in a relationship, if someone doesn’t do what I expect them to do, I usually forgive them… I would say it should be as simple as, “OK, you’re doing this and it makes me feel this way (whatever it is you feel) and it makes me think this…
It sounds obvious when I write it out, but in real life, you do need to keep clear on where you’re coming from. Adding to this point, I would also avoid words like “never” and “always” when it comes to things he does.