When seeking romance (etc.) on the great wide Internet it is inevitable that we will run across people we know in other contexts.Like you, my strategy has been either to totally ignore it or to be like “” and then drop the conversation completely.or if you don’t drive and don’t want to have to rely on your possibly-drunk co-workers for rides?

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This is a pretty low-stakes question, but I was wondering if you and your lovely commenters could help me out here?

I’m a young, disabled woman working in a hyper-competitive, male-dominated, rank-obsessed industry.

As Valentine’s Day approaches, there’s an uptick in whiteboard hearts and watercooler gossip.

Love is in the air alright, but chances are, it’s been there all year long: 56% of business professionals say they’ve been in relationships with coworkers.

It feels weird because the illusion of privacy has been punctured for a moment, but it’s not actually that strange. I believe I have shared the story of the Shadowy Dating Juggernaut where Commander Logic and I and both of her roommates and a few other friends in the Bespectacled Bookish Brunettes of Chicago Knitting Circle And Culinary Society were on Ok Cupid at the same time, right?

It was inevitable that streams would cross and one of us would bring a dude we were dating to a party and watch him slowly figure out where he knew the rest of us from…because if you liked one of us enough to write to you probably liked all of us…and that we all knew each other…that we had definitely had been trading notes about him behind the scenes in the name of safety, solidarity, and hilarity.

” Someone revealing kinks or more explicit sexual content or desires just got ignored and in some cases insta-blocked more so that I wouldn’t make THEM uncomfortable or feel like they were being monitored.

Mostly my attitude was “ #don’tcrossthestreams Another true story: Years ago colleague who was new in town messaged me once on OK Cupid and we went for a friendly coffee before we knew we’d be working together. Upon being “introduced” at work, we never mentioned or even hinted that we had met each other before in any other context. If your coworker has got overall good intentions and is also feeling awkward about what to do next like, “” and then block him. Blocks are often necessary to make a social site usable.

I recently started a job at a new company, and in my department there’s a potluck every fortnight at one of the senior people’s houses.

It’s pretty much expected that you attend — which I have pretty mixed feelings about, because, like, what if you have kids or other home responsibilities?

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