He joined the Church a year and a half ago, and their temple wedding is planned for next year. His eternal companion had only been a member a year when they married – they actually had to fit their wedding date to her baptismal anniversary, in order for her to attend the temple. I’m so glad you pointed out that there’s not one right answer for everyone, Jill.

A third daughter is about to leave on a mission and has never entertained the idea of dating a non-member. We’re all individuals, and what works in one situation may not work in another. I feel that it is absolutely okay to date nonmembers, especially in high school.

That being said, once high school is over and one starts thinking of marriage, the bar can and should be raised.

Young men and women aren’t simply getting to know a wide variety of people anymore; they are looking more exclusively for one.

I will always be grateful for a seminary teacher’s father and the young woman who took his advice, proved it good, and passed it on. I’m glad your son had the courage to try it, and I’m glad it worked so well for him.

This wise counsel from a seminary teacher has already affected your family, and it can help many other families now that you’ve shared it with us.

My oldest daughter asked a work friend to partner her to her school formal (prom).

They ended up dating for about a year before she broke it off, knowing that’s not what she wanted.She eventually married in the temple and has three children born under the covenant.She says she learnt from her nonmember versus member dating experiences what it was she really wanted in a husband.It seems as though we have our first hot topic of 2012 – the issue of whether to date people who are not members of the Church.So many members have written in with their personal experiences that we have all the responses we need, so don’t send any more letters on the subject!Another daughter met a wonderful young man at university.