He sits on the board of directors for several nonprofits, including the Texas Alliance for Life.

“Every relationship for a Christian is an opportunity to love another person like God has loved us.

Or has Josh decided that bloggers like myself have so strongly turned the climate against his book that he needs to reclaim the narrative by repackaging his original teachings under the guise of reform? Here’s an intro from the Life After ‘I Kissed Dating Goodbye’ website: While we think that actually taking the time to listen is a good start for Harris, many of us are deeply uncomfortable with his chosen format.

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They imposed strict rules about “courting” for their kids.

It was all very confusing for most teens and caused a mess.

I love the idea of reclaiming narratives and owning our stories in powerful ways. Samantha Field has already posted her own story, and it does not make for easy reading.

But then, true stories—the stories we own and guard—often don’t.

As a teen, Joshua Harris’ 1997 book, I Kissed Dating Goodbye, played a fundamental role in shaping my perception toward dating, love, and romance.

Today, several of my blogger friends have launched a website, titled Life After ‘I Kissed Dating Goodbye’, to highlight the stories of others whose relationships and life trajectories were fundamentally altered by Josh’s book. As my regular readers will know, several months ago Josh apologized on twitter to Elizabeth Esther, another blogger, for the harm his book caused her.

I know more than a few folks my age who blame their relational woes on that crazed phenomenon.

They said it made them paranoid to go on a date with anyone unless they were dead-serious about wanting to marry them first. Way too many Christians decided to make the book into some legalistic rule book. Religion turns everything into black and white rules. It keeps things simple (for a while, until we make a rule for everything and it all starts overlapping and getting complex).

They are asking for submissions, including both posts on personal blogs, which they can link up, and original essays. Last month, he appeared on NPR, walking back his book in ways that were promising but not all the way there.

If your life, too, was changed by I Kissed Dating Goodbye, I’d encourage you to consider participating! The question I asked then was this: Has Josh actually changed his mind on any of the positions he laid out in his book?

We want to curate these stories in the hopes of preventing more damage from being done and to provide an alternative narrative to the rigid and narrow thinking that IKDG and Harris’ other work espouses.