The scenario: “One time I was messaging back and forth with a guy for two weeks and having a great conversation, but he was taking too long to ask me out, so I stopped talking to him.” — Kelly, 32The problem..the solution: If you’re into her, ask her out! And if you’re not, why are you still talking to her? When she’s ready to make her exit from the online dating world, she’ll let you know. ” The scenario: “I can’t stand when I get a message that says ‘any fun weekend plans? ” — Laura, 27The problem..the solution: Sending a generic message—especially one as uninteresting as this—is not what’s going to make you stand out from other guys.

Or if you feel compelled to bring it up, say something like, “I’m not interested in meeting anyone else online. Trust us, she’s getting a boatload of uninspiring messages like “Hi, how are you?

We get many posts (chats and phone calls) from young people who are thinking about becoming sexually active so you're definitely not alone with this.

By pointing out your hesitations, she’s bound to assume you’re an insecure person. If you feel so inclined to explain yourself, wait to do it when you’ve met in person — and be confident about your reasons for joining.

The scenario: “I got a message that said ‘Obviously you’re cute, but I’m just having trouble believing that this is actually you because you seem too good to be true.

In healthy relationships your partner will respect your boundaries and will not pressure you to do something that you aren't comfortable doing.

Do you think your boyfriend would respect you and your decision if you decided not to have sex? A big thing to consider when thinking about having sex is how you will protect yourself if you have sex - from unplanned pregnancy and Sexually Transmitted Infections. Do you know how to access condoms, other methods of birth control you may want to use, etc.? If you were to have sex with your boyfriend and the relationship were to end soon afterwards would you regret your decision?

My buddy thinks you’re real and now we have a $20 bet going. ” — Kristin, 26The problem..the solution: Aside from the fact that this is a pathetic pickup line, it’s certainly never going to work. The scenario: “I went on a few dates with a guy I met online, and I eventually decided we weren’t compatible, so I was honest with him.

A lot of women are looking for something serious and have no interest in participating in your immature wager with friends. He refused to accept it and continued to message me listing all the reasons why we’d be great together.” — Ashley, 30The problem..the solution: No matter how strongly you feel about your potential with a woman you meet online, accept the break-up gracefully.By the time your date comes around, she’ll already have lost interest or have found someone more attentive.If you really are going away, wait until you get back to ask her out.Or if you said that you weren't going to do anything sexual (even things you've done) until you do feel more comfortable with that decision? Another thing to think about is what would happen if despite taking precautions you did find yourself dealing with an unplanned pregnancy or infection. If you kept dating but having sex changed the dynamics of the relationship how would you feel about that?When young people write to us about how they're considering becoming sexually active we often refer them to a website called Scarleteen. The Scarleteen Sex Readiness Checklist" that I'd encourage you to check it out - it outlines many, many things that you should consider before becoming sexually active: scarleteen.com/article/relationships/ready_or_not_the_scarleteen_sex_readiness_checklist It's important to trust your gut feeling, so if you're not sure that' you're ready to have sex it's absolutely okay (and encouraged) to wait until you don't have any doubts and feel that you are ready to take that step. and who is not in a position of power over you, like a coach, teacher, etc.