He is the author of several books, including Thomas Paine, winner of the 2007 Henry Adams Prize.

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From breaking down psychological blocks to surviving a breakup, Nelson explores the key issues in gay male relationships and the baggage left over from adolescence. The writing is humorous, straightforward and honest.

I've read half this book, and probably will reserve the other half until I'm emotionally ready for it . Great sense of humor mixed into this American's view of gay life.

Take it as a compliment; do not take it as a reason to pick up the check.

Six: Unless he can juggle or tap dance in bed, "versatile bottom" means only one thing, so be prepared to take charge if things go well.

Two: You're "Checking In" at the restaurant where you've made dinner reservations? Nothing like telling 5,000 Facebook friends the location of your intimate rendezvous.

Three: Do not "friend" your date on Facebook before or after the initial meeting.

Be prepared to be judged by all the members of the orgy.

Nine: If you've met the guy online and have never met in person, and if his entire chat so far has been about how amazingly hot you are and how amazingly much he's into you and how he's quite certain you're the guy for him, he will hate you within 20 minutes of your date and you will never hear from him again.

If you're lying when you call yourself a "versatile top," either call it quits now or start working on your oral communication skills.

Seven: If he insists on taking "important calls" several times during your date, don't automatically think he's blowing you off.

From breaking down psychological blocks to surviving a breakup, Nelson explores the key issues in gay male relationships and the baggage left over from adolescence. Craig Nelson has been a vice president and executive editor of Harper & Row, Hyperion, Random House, and Villard, and a literary agent.