It’s giving him a backrub if he’s been doing hard PT all week. This conflict runs through a soldier’s mind every day. But simply telling him you’re proud of him, and meaning it, will say so much more. If you’ve decided to enter a relationship with a soldier, congratulations. As my soldier recently put it, some the toughest jobs in the Army belong to the women who date, or marry into, it. I knew going into this that I wouldn’t see him for long periods of time. He has only been gone for 4 weeks and its already starting to tear me apart. Well anyways we met a long long time ago, the very first time that we met I was a freshman in h.s.These little slices of normality and tenderness can mean the world. So when it comes to your feelings, make it easy for him. For my first birthday we were a couple, my boyfriend gave me a set of his dogtags. And when people ask me about them, I puff out my chest and tell them the truth. But be warned: it’s not going to be anything like a “normal” relationship. two good girlfriends of mine and myself went to this guy’s house to pick up one of our other girlfriends to go out that night.Curious as to what I was in for, and wanting some solid guidance, I went looking for advice on how to be a good Army girlfriend. However, in my own time as an Army girlfriend, I’ve come upon a few revelations of my own. Dating a soldier is a commitment, and not one to be taken lightly. Above all, talk to people who’ve lived it and ask them to be honest. If you’re not ready for to be an Army girlfriend and all that it entails, break it off. As soon as my guy used the g-word, I hit the keyboard and called my sister-in-law (retired Army wife extraordinaire). Soldiers work long hours that they have absolutely no control over. If you’re one of those girls who always needs a guy on her arm, get used to disappointment. You’ll have time for your friends, family, hobbies and work. And odds are, one of the reasons his time with you means so much to him is because it’s one of the few times he can get away from that life. My boyfriend and I have plenty to talk about, from video games to the funny cashier at the grocery store, and I never bring up the Army to any extent greater than asking him how his day went. If your man is ready to introduce you to the guys in his unit and/or regiment, it’s a big step.

Among my friends, I’ve had girlfriends who want to hook them up with soldiers in my guy’s regiment, guyfriends who ask me if he’s going to kill them if they flirt with me, and even coworkers who, shall we say, were less than supportive of the military in general. So if your guy has committed himself to an serious relationship with you, he’s most likely going to stick to that commitment, and he expects you to do the same.

As a soldier’s girlfriend, you’ll have to field a lot of the same questions, and frequently clear up misnomers about the Army. Far too many of my soldier friends have had “Jodi” get their girl (you may want to look that up), and it’s especially hurtful to them.

Now, this does NOT mean you should boss him around.

But he’ll probably appreciate it if you do a share of the date-planning.

I had heard them all talk about him here and there telling stories that they shared with him, but still I never gave it a second thought.

His best friend kept telling Bubba about me and what we were doing, what I was doing, how I was doing and this started and December (I found all this a lot later) and then that Feb we were all over at Rachel’s place having game night and one of his friends was talking to Bubba on the phone and then his friend called me over there and said that there was someone on the phone that wanted to talk to me so I was like ok. It was the first time I had talked to him in years!

But there was one time I went to see him at a friend’s place he was at and had called me to come over and I was SO nervous I dragged one of my friends with me and when we got there I think I may had said 2 whole words to him the whole time. that’s one thing bubba and I can do is talk and talk and talk.

But when it came to face to face talking I would chicken out get real shy I dunno why though, but then soon after that he moved up to South Carolina with his parents and really one of the last times we talked on the phone he wanted me to come up to one of the beaches up there for spring break with all his friends but I declined.

But you have to take note that my junior and senior year was a whirlwind kind of a blur but a GREAT blur if you catch my drift hahaha.

He says the first time that he met me it was at a party that he came to and I happened to be there.

I would get a phone call sometimes in the beginning and then instead of a phone call I would get a My Space message ever so often and then a My Space message like once a year not really saying much just “Hey, how u doing? He says that I never would write back but I’m sure I did.