Down with dating
"I knew we were going to have struggles as an interracial couple. He was willing to give up those relatives."Eventually some relatives came around and even danced at the wedding. They didn't attend the marriage ceremony, and Michael hasn't spoken to them in two years.
Things may be improving: The Meadors celebrated their first anniversary in August, and Michael's mother has invited them to spend Christmas in Mississippi with the family.
The Memphis attorney had always talked about finding the Cliff to her Clair and having brown babies for a real-life Cosby Show family.
So when she met a White accountant from Mississippi online in 2013, got engaged to him in 2014 and married him in 2015, her friends were shocked."When he proposed, they were like, "We didn't know it was that serious. " I had people question if this was what I wanted," says Meador, who serves as general counsel and vice-president at a nonprofit.
My struggles as a Black woman leading a legal department of a multistate corporation have just gone away? "It was almost like they treated it as if I had switched sides, and I was no longer down for the cause because I married a White guy. It's also not fair to him."Initially a few members of Michael's family were not supportive of the relationship.
"He told his family, "I am marrying this woman, so either you're on board or you're going to have to watch from the sidelines,"" says Meador.
So it's no wonder we're thrilled for Black women who have found love—no matter the ethnicity of their partner.
Though Black men are still twice as likely as Black women to date outside their race, it seems more and more of us are becoming open to dating beyond the color line.The ruling ultimately overturned the ban on interracial marriages.This fall Focus Features released a movie about Richard and Mildred's journey to legally marry.During their college days at the University of Pittsburgh, some Black male friends of Merrian Brooks, 33, would say they didn't know any Black women who were as attractive as White women."Some of the men I really respected would exclusively date White women," she says."It felt like confirmation of my insecurity as a dark-skinned Black woman who was single."But Brooks, a pediatrician, says she no longer cares who Black men date.I do think there is someone out there for everyone," says the father of two.