Ask for what you want, and be willing to accept “no” as an answer.

At some point online dating may have sounded interesting and they created a profile but never really did anything more than upload their picture and look around.

Now they check their account occasionally to make themselves feel good based on all the emails they are getting but they never respond to anyone.

Do not assume there is something wrong with you or your profile.

Below is a list of reasons I know occur simply from talking to the girls I dated or from talking to friends.

(I’ve personally never heard of any in which the original participants remained happily together for more than year, but there is always the hope.) That being said, if you don’t ask for what you want, it’s guaranteed you won’t get it. And as Franklin Veaux says, “Life rewards those who move in the direction of greatest courage.” Or we can go with Shakespeare, “To thine own self be true.” Nevertheless, it’s important to understand that ultimately, the answer may be “no.” Your partner may either shut that door permanently or be open to further discussions but ultimately determine that he/she can’t be happy and healthy in that arrangement.

And as we say here, never ask a question you’re not willing to accept a “no” see love as limitless and joyful, your partner may be inclined to distrust, especially if there have been issues of infidelity in the past (or present).In any relationship, it’s your responsibility to know what will help you to become a happier and healthier version of yourself.And it’s wise to ask your partner on a regular basis what he/she needs as well, regardless of the relationship structure.Keep in mind that if you expect a partner to respect and nurture your self-identity as poly, you should likewise be prepared to accept and nurture his/her identity as well.Set up a safe space to listen to your partner’s reactions to the idea of polyamory.It’s entirely possible that you can come out to your partner as polyamorous and ask for the relationship to be opened up only to cause drawn out arguments, disastrous dates and potentially even the end of the existing relationship.