And while I know I have a choice to respond to these inane messages, I don't want to seem rude by preemptively shutting down the conversation. I also appreciate the validation, the feeling that some guy connects with me so deeply he simply can't help but send me 20 texts a day.

"Texting gives men a non-committal form of validation whenever they want to feel connected," Hussey says.

While an actual date can make a guy freak out about commitment and question whether he wants a relationship, texting offers intimacy without the, 'Is this going to be a thing? "Guys may want fleeting moments of connection rather than the prospect of a real thing."But if you're not into a textlationship, Hussey says the best thing to do is let a guy know ASAP: "Tell him you're going on a texting hiatus until he proves that he is indeed a real human being and not a figment of your imagination," he suggests.

Still, she hasn't erased the text exchange, and occasionally re-reads them. He and I got along so well over text and it felt like an actual breakup when we stopped communicating, even though we only went on one date."According to experts, that may be because a lot of guys prefer the texting to dating.

Matthew Hussey, a relationship expert and author of explains that, for guys, texting strangers serves a purpose that women, who tend to have a larger social network (both virtually and in person), don't require.

I find the guy who is razor sharp over texts is bitter and angry over drinks; the one who seemed flirty in messages is pushy in person.

And in turn, I become more sensitive from the outset: I notice if a guy seems acutely disappointed when we meet—as if he's more attracted to my avatar than me.Related: "I love meeting new people, and it's sometimes fun to have a random dude to text with during my down time, but seeing so many messages build up on my phone is stressful," says 24-year-old Tinder-user Ashley.However, "I try to respond quickly because I know how weird I feel when I write something and a guy I like doesn't respond for hours later." But it's not only the time suck that's a downside of exchanging too many texts before an in-person meeting.Usually, we send the forbidden double text when we’re drinking and then wake up and regret it in the morning.This is probably the worst texting crime you can commit.You’ve waited the appropriate amount of time so you don’t sound too desperate or uninterested and your best friends gave you the okay. You stare at your phone until it lights up, but the only new message you see is from Mom. Her Campus talked to the guys to learn about the texts they dread receiving from girls.