I just didn’t want to get into the whole “I’m in the process” conversation.Well, this relationship flourished and we started dating exclusively. I felt that if I told him that truth he would be angry at me for not telling him sooner and not trust me….” Aaaand then, there are the folks who use separation as a testing ground for the supposedly-deceased marriage.

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That’s a long time to be legally married to someone that has clearly moved on (he moved in with his girlfriend after about a year).

“ Unsurprisingly, some folks are unwilling to extend their emotional exile.

Consciously or not, these people are using you as a jealousy-inducer—a way to renew their marriage bonds and reinvigorate their spouse’s affections by showcasing how desirable they are to others: “….

We dated for a couple months before she told me she was married but didn’t wear a ring because she felt divorce was imminent.

Dan Dear Duana, I’m a single mom, and I’ve been set up with another single parent who is ‘not quite divorced’. Should I suggest he contact me when the divorce is final? He got an apartment, and still came ‘home’ after work for months to help put our two young children to bed as neither of us emotionally was ready to tell the kids.

Should I have one coffee date and see what I think? Eventually, we told them, and about 2 years later our divorce was final…..[He also] knew that it would take me time to re-enter the workforce after having been a stay at home mom to our children, and that after we were divorced I would have no health insurance…

However, there is one important exception: formal event announcements.

It's quite customary to include the day of the week in a wedding invitation, for instance.

They might not think they owe loyalty to a feckless, faithless mate, or one who prolongs the proceedings.