“For instance, a planner is attracted to their partner’s spontaneity.

” These are things that can only really be figured out by sharing quality time together in a relationship.

Chilipala also emphasizes the importance of getting through arguments effectively.

When it comes down to it though, “The more you know yourself and can communicate your expectations and needs effectively, the less time you need to date someone to know if they are a good fit,” says Chilipala.

“Some people, regardless of age, choose the same type of person over and over again without knowing why.

On the other hand, Anita Chlipala, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and owner of Relationship Reality 312, says she usually recommends 12 to 18 months at minimum, “because that’s the average time it takes for infatuation to fade.

Research shows that there’s truth to the adage ‘love is blind,’ where the critical thinking parts of the brain shut down during infatuation.” That maybe sounds a little familiar, right?At the same time, it can be really hard to know when it’s the right time to start talking about a bigger commitment with your S.O., especially if you’re yet to have the money, living together and “do you want kids? That’s why we tapped experts to find out what the rules are on how long you should be together before you walk down the aisle. First off, there’s no hard-and-fast minimum time requirement for deciding when to get married.The spontaneous person might feel that the planner is taking all the fun out of life and their relationship.And round and round we go.” Ugh, that definitely doesn’t sound fun! “Considering that a younger couple might not be as developed in their values and life experiences, more time might be necessary to learn about each other and learn about themselves too,” says Pachler.“How a couple fights is important to the success of a relationship.